Lovely Romantic Quotes for Today
What is as difficult to secure as friendship?
And what greater security is there against foes?
Among wise men, friendship waxes like the crescent moon;
Among fools it wanes as surely as the full moon must.
-Tirukkural 79:781-782
"Most of us are just about as happy as we make up our minds to be."
One of my favorites!!!!
"It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations."
Khalil Gibran
What is beautiful is not always good, but what is good is always beautiful.
Only as high as I reach can I grow,
Only as far as I seek can I go,
Only as deep as I look can I see,
Only as much as I dream can I be.
Karen Ravn…
People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost."
Love, like a river, will cut a new path
whenever it meets an obstacle.
- Crystal Middlemas –
Love is what we give, respect is what we owe.
It takes 3 seconds to say I love you, but it takes an eternity to show it.
Under the hypnotic spell of pleasure
And pain, we live for ourselves and are bound.
Though master of ourselves, we roam about
From birth to birth, driven by our own deeds.
-Shvetashvatara Upanishad
"We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly ourselves."
When your mind is hankering for the future, continuously planning for the future all the time, then it is not joyful.
Fountain of Joy
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself."
You throw a ball up it comes back down again.
You throw a ball up it comes back down again.
You throw a ball up it comes back down again.
Is it fun, are anoying, it depends on ones mood.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Lovely Romantic Quotes for Today
Saturday, July 19, 2008
My BF will he ever marry me? The commitment factor
Will He Ever Marry You?
You and your guy may be a better match than PB&J, but that won't make him propose. Psychologist Alon Gratch, Ph.D., reveals the tipping factor that will.
By Alon Gratch, PhD
Every chick knows how hard it is when she puts in serious time with a guy who refuses to commit ... until he moves on to his next girlfriend, and then suddenly, he's springing for a rock. Women assume that a guy will pop the question once he finds someone he's compatible with, i.e., The One. But that's not enough to push him over the edge, according to clinical psychologist Alon Gratch, Ph.D., author of If Men Could Talk. What, then, does it take?
"Being ready," says Gratch. "In my 25 years of experience working with men as a relationship therapist, it's 49 percent the right woman, 51 percent his readiness to commit." That means that compatibility is hugely important. But if he's not in a marriage mind-set yet, he's not going to commit to anyone ... not even Gisele.
In fact, 81 percent of the married men surveyed by the National Marriage Project said one reason they decided to wed was because it was the right time to settle down.
"Of course, even if a guy is ready to walk down the aisle, he still needs to find the right person," says Gratch. "But he is more likely to meet her once he's in that marrying state of mind." To help us figure it all out, we asked Gratch to explain. Here, he divulges the five factors that make a man want to take the plunge.
COMMITMENT FACTOR #1
The Capacity to Love
No matter how head-over-heels your guy is during the initial honeymoon period of the relationship, it doesn't mean he is ready to commit. A man might fall in love, which requires the capacity to idealize. That means thinking and feeling like his partner and the relationship are uniquely special, enabling him to ignore imperfections, which, in turn, makes him feel valued and special.
Loving, on the other hand, involves connecting with the other person, understanding her, and wanting to be with her for who she is, not who he'd like her to be.
While it might be difficult to decipher the difference between the two, one clue is the test of time. Falling in love happens early on in a relationship, when a couple barely knows each other. Once they become more intimate and learn more about each other's positive and negative traits and the initial love buzz is gone, a man who is only in love will lose interest. If he truly loves, he'll stay.
Another major telltale sign of real love is selflessness and the ability to care. Does your man make sacrifices for you? Is he able to put your wants and needs before his? Relationships are all about give and take, but love is more about giving.
COMMITMENT FACTOR #2
Being Able to Accept Imperfection
Intellectually, we all know that there are no perfect people and, therefore, no perfect relationships. But it often takes maturity and dating experience to actually believe it.
Take a client of mine, who broke up with a wonderful woman simply because he thought he could do better. A year later, he met someone else, who was also great but far from perfect. After two years of dating, he decided to propose. If he had met her a few years earlier, he would have broken up with her too. But now, he realizes that this is as good as it gets, though it took him several relationships to finally understand that.
Having unrealistic expectations makes it impossible for a man to develop a close bond. If a guy who isn't ready starts getting too close to a woman, he'll look for imperfections, either consciously or subconsciously, to create distance between them and, ultimately, to give him a reason to break up with her.
COMMITMENT FACTOR #3
He Truly Believes in Commitment
Even if a man tells you that he's in it for the long term, you won't really know the level of his staying power until you hit some rough patches. If he's not ready, he won't be able to handle the negative aspects of a relationship, and he'll either shut down — and shut you out — or bail. A man who is truly ready to bond will be willing to work with you to try to resolve whatever problems the two of you are having.
This doesn't mean that he'll never experience any doubts or even think about leaving. But at the end of the day, he'll realize that his relationship is a top priority, and whatever discomfort he might have to endure to work out the kinks is worth it. It's a trade-off he's willing to make.
COMMITMENT FACTOR #4
He's Sure He Can Be the Man
Even though stereotypical gender roles have loosened up and many men are no longer required to be the breadwinners, a lot of guys still worry, deep down, that they should be ... and a lot of women still expect it. So if a guy feels that he can't live up to his — or his partner's — expectations, he might put off getting seriously involved to avoid feeling like he's not capable. It's a way for him to protect his ego.
According to the National Marriage Project, 47 percent of men agree that they wouldn't want to get married until they could afford to own a home, and 40 percent would want to be able to afford a nice wedding.
But it's not just the money — or lack thereof — that will cause a guy to shy away from commitment. If a guy is putting all of his time and energy into pursuing a goal, whether it's climbing the corporate ladder or working toward finishing medical school, he just won't have anything left to give to a partner, both physically and emotionally. So he puts romance on the back burner.
Now that's not to say he will never want to pop the question. If your man is floundering careerwise or struggling to make ends meet, it might be in your interest to bide your time and wait for him to become ready. Of course, it depends on the dynamic between the two of you. But if he seems fully engaged in the relationship, clearly states that he wants to get married after he accomplishes whatever goal he has been working on, and his time frame is reasonable, your patience could eventually pay off.
COMMITMENT FACTOR #5
He's Tired of Playing Around
While there's no specific age at which men are ready to marry (nor do they all mature at the same rate), after a while, going from one superficial relationship to another begins to lose its allure, and they crave a deeper kind of bond with someone.
This more intimate mind-set may be expedited if all the guy's friends are starting to settle down. For one thing, it becomes harder for him to find buddies to party with. But more important, with everyone around him getting more serious about their relationships, he's more likely to reflect on what he wants in life. Though bachelorhood can be fun and exciting, it's often emotionally unfulfilling. And ultimately, at some point, most men want to have that soul-mate connection.
The Art of the Ultimatum
Three times when it might pay to nudge him a bit
He Has a Legit Excuse
If you really think the two of you click but he's stalling because he's temporarily focused on something else, like finishing grad school, give him a firm deadline (e.g., till he reaches his goal).
He Needs to Rethink His Priorities
Say he's a jock and you hate sports, but he wishes you had that in common. Is it so important to him that he's willing to risk losing you? (Note: If the answer is yes, you don't want him anyway.)
He's Chronically Indecisive
Some guys are reluctant because they can't make a decision. He's not afraid of committing to you; he's just afraid of committing. If that sounds like your man, he might need prodding to get off the proverbial fence. Just tell him that you want him to be in your life, but if he can't make a decision in the next couple of months, you'll have to move on. Warning: If you issue an ultimatum, you'd better be prepared to stick to it.
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Love Doc explains Getting over being dumped - Why I keep getting dumped
Why I keep getting dumped…
Today we are going to feature a top consultant for relationships and life advices named Margot Carmichael. We will tackle the age old question that makes everyone think "what's wrong with me?" why is it really sometimes [ or maybe most of the times] some people always get dumped? Or being cheated on? read on and enjoy the beautiful tipsBy Margot Carmichael Lester Do you feel as if you know the drill that goes like this? First, the dates aren’t as fun. Then the calls stop getting returned. Next, the relationship ends. The tears fall. Your heart breaks. It’s over. Again.
“Rejection cuts deep because it slices at our core need to be loved,” explains LeslieBeth Wish, a Sarasota-based psychologist. But you can recover and even reduce your chances of rejection. Here’s how.
1. Put it in writing. Dallas-based dating coach Victorya Michaels Rogers finds value in journaling about your relationship patterns. “What really happened? Was he ‘all that’ or just an addiction? Were you in love with him or the idea of him? Often the pain is about the act of rejection rather than who did the rejecting,” she notes. “It’s important to know what is really behind the pain so you can regain self-esteem and move on. And writing it out reveals to your head — logically — what happened so you can move beyond the illogical grip of emotions. You’ll grow as a person and recover more quickly.”
2. Love yourself. “Instead of spending tremendous amounts of energy worrying if I’ll ever meet someone new, I work on loving myself,” says Lone Morch, a Bay Area photographer who has been dealing with rejection. “I ask my ‘inner lover’ — the one who is so good to the people I date — what she would do, how she would treat me and show me she cares. I believe that only when we love ourselves and treat ourselves with respect will we attract people who will do the same. So love thyself. Develop the most fantastic relationship with yourself and see what happens.”
3. Get a new attitude. Wish suggests developing a new mantra that will help you get through the rough patches. “Repeat every morning and night: ‘It’s probably not about me. I have these good qualities...’ Then list them. People choose partners for highly personal — and often wrong — reasons.” You can also use a mantra to get clear on what you need to do to turn the tide. “Try posing yourself challenges like, ‘If I take an educated guess, I would say that I need to improve on…” or ‘My best guess is that I’m choosing people who are…’ ‘So, I should look for people who are more…’
4. Get by with a little help from your friends. “I was on a really bad dating streak,” recalls Tom Karl of Kitsap, WA. “I was feeling horrible about myself, but my friends really helped me purge the bad feelings and focus on what I had to offer. They also got me back out there so I was still in the game. It didn’t make the pain of getting rejected any less, of course, but it kept me from spending the rest of my life alone in front of the TV eating bad delivery pizza.”
5. Learn to make better decisions. You’re less likely to get jilted if you make better decisions about which people to date in the first place. “A wise woman once told me that the sign of a good match or relationship, even very early on, was how you felt about yourself after you were with the other person,” says New York-based drama therapist Jennifer Wilson. “When the glow and immediacy is over and you are alone, how do you feel about yourself? When you honor how being with another makes you feel about yourself, then you may make choices that are better for you.”
“If you’ve been repeatedly rejected, it’s time to say, ‘Enough is enough’,” asserts Rogers, author of The Automatic Second Date. “Ask God to reveal what’s behind all the rejection. Then accept your part — poor choices, low self-esteem, too needy, or too much too soon — and give it over to God. If you’re willing to accept your part, tweak your dating skills and actively live the life you want to live, your ideal mate will finally appear in God’s perfect timing.”
North Carolina-based freelancer Margot Carmichael Lester also pens the Ask Margot advice column. Write her at AskMargot@match.com.
Thursday, June 5, 2008
Why does being in love feel so good - answer by another Love Doctor
Most of us have pondered such issues, and we decided to get some answers. Most of us have thought about these questions, and we decided to get answers. That's why we sat down with noted anthropologist, Dr. Helen Fisher of Rutgers University, who is also the author of such books as Why We Love. That is why we sat down with noted anthropologist, Dr. Helen Fisher of Rutgers University, who is also the author of such books as the reasons why we love.
Her noteworthy career has been dedicated to understanding love-how and why it functions for us humans-and she sat down with us to share her fascinating insights. His remarkable career has been devoted to understanding the love-how and why it works for us humans and she sat down with us to share her ideas, so fascinating.
Q: Why does being in love feel so good?
Dr. Fisher: Because some of the most powerful brain circuits for pleasure are triggered. The main chemical involved is dopamine, which produces feelings of euphoria, energy, sleeplessness, and focused attention on your beloved. Biologically speaking, you’re experiencing something similar to a cocaine high.
Q: Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Dr. Fisher: Yes. It probably happens to men more than women because men are more visual, but I think we can all remember times when we felt an instant attraction to someone we barely knew. It has a practical purpose: In the animal kingdom you can’t spend three months discussing your résumé; you need to feel instant sparks to start the breeding process.
Q: Is falling in love all about timing?
Dr. Fisher: Timing is important. The perfect partner can sit right next to you at a party, and you might not notice him or her if you’re too busy at work, enmeshed in another relationship, or otherwise preoccupied. But if you’ve just moved to a new city, recovered from an unsatisfying love affair, begun to make enough money to raise a family, are suffering through a difficult experience, or have a good deal of spare time, you are ripe to fall in love.
Q: Is there anything we can do to make someone fall for us (or make ourselves fall for someone)?
Dr. Fisher: Do new things together. Novelty and excitement all drive up the activity of dopamine and norepinephrine in the brain. These neurotransmitters are associated with energy, elation, focused attention and motivation—central traits of romantic love. So as you do novel things, these chemicals hop into action and may just push you over the threshold to fall in love.
Q: Is there anything you can do to make yourself stop loving someone?
Dr. Fisher: Some people, especially women, tend to talk about a failed relationship so much that they re-traumatize themselves. Instead, get rid of your ex’s cards and letters. Don’t call or write. Get some sunshine and exercise, because both can change brain chemistry.
Q: What’s the difference between love and lust?
Dr. Fisher: Lust generally dissipates after having sex and returns hours or days later. You can feel it for several people at the same time and not necessarily feel jealous. But when you’re in love, you are very possessive. And romantic feelings don’t dissipate after having sex; in fact, they can intensify.
Q: Does having sex make people fall in love?
Dr. Fisher: Having sex can trigger love—probably because after orgasm, there’s a peak in dopamine activity. So watch out if you casually bed down with someone—you might unintentionally fall for them.
Q: Do feelings of love die over time, and is there any way to bring them back?
Dr. Fisher: The first intense period of love can last one to three years. After that, these feelings subside. But if two people are compatible, there are many ways to renew a flagging partnership. Novelty can spur romance; sex can trigger it, too. Do some of the things that you used to when you were first dating.
Q: How important a role does chemistry play in love?
Dr. Fisher: I believe that when the chemistry of one personality meshes well with the chemistry of another, it will continually combust throughout the relationship—keeping both partners together and happy during dry spells when feelings of romance are low.
Q: How do men and women experience love differently?
Dr. Fisher: Men fall in love faster than women do. Women take longer because they have to create a “memory trail” of their mate’s behaviors. She has to remember what he promised, what he’s done for the partnership, and what he failed to do.
Q: What do men look for in a mate?
Dr. Fisher: Men are more likely to choose women who display signs of youth and beauty—the first time that they marry, men around the world tend to marry women who are three years younger than themselves. Men are also attracted to women who “need” them. Men want to be helpful.
Q: What do women look for in a mate?
Dr. Fisher: Women are attracted to partners with money, status, and ambition—one study found that American women seek partners who offered financial security twice as frequently as men do. If men look for “sex objects,” then women look for “success objects.”
Q: Can someone truly love more than one person?
Dr. Fisher: No. I think you can feel lust for more than one person, and feelings of attachment for more than one person. But not love. As the Indian aphorism goes, “The lane of love is narrow; there is room for only one.”
Q: What’s the biggest mistake people make when it comes to love?
Dr. Fisher: Some people fall in love before they really know their partner and marry in this state of romantic rapture. They should probably wait until that intense early phase wears off so they can see the flaws in the relationship before they dive in for good.
Q: Having reviewed so much scientific data on love,what would be the most important thing we’ve learned?
Dr. Fisher: To me, the most important thing that scientists have learned is that romantic love was not invented by the troubadours in 11th century France. We have now found love poetry from the ancient Sumerians written some 4,000 years ago, as well as evidence of romantic love in over 150 societies. It’s given me a deep sense of connection to people everywhere: We’re all alike in some basic and beautiful ways.
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Kissing 101 How to be a torrid yet passionate kisser- Kiss to Kill
In a poll 90% of women said that they wish their partners kissed them more, but what makes a great kiss and you the perfect kisser?
Here are some basics on french kissing, the history of kissing, why we do it, why we enjoy it and how to give a kiss to remember.
Kissing can express friendship, emotional attachment or can be extremely arousing, depending on the ways it’s done.
Why do we kiss?
Kissing probably derived from ancient times, with food being transferred from the mother’s to her baby’s mouths.
This lip contact developed into a way for mothers to show love to their children. This then developed and became a way to show both love and desire.
What’s the difference between a kiss that falls flat and one that makes you feel weak at the knees?
What to do if you bang your teeth...
Laugh it off. Tell your partner you're so excited to kiss him or
her that you're getting dizzy just standing so close. Dizzy with
excitement! They'll believe you. Then get back to kissing . . .
and get dizzy for real.
How to kiss passionately...
The secret to great kissing is variety. Sometimes you're gentle,
sometimes you're rough. Ouch! Tease your partner with a little bite on
the lips -- as if you can't control yourself and want to eat them up.
Press your nose into your partner's cheek and hug 'em to you,
like the Eskimos.
What to avoid...
Bad breath -- use gum to keep your mouth sweet.
Boring kisses -- vary the intensity, the tempo, the duration.
Silence -- every now and then say something sweet.
Too much tongue -- don't suffocate your partner.
Rigor Mortis -- keep your hands caressing your lover.
How to french kiss...
The secret to great french kissing is responsiveness.
Sometimes you lead, sometimes you let your partner lead.
Don't just use your tongue like a dart!
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Cute tips How to make a Woman Happy
Something for the men out there, some few tips can go a long way in life, love and relationships. Good day and happy reading to all from the Love Doctor
HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY.......
It's really not difficult...
To make a woman happy; a man only needs to be :
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
17. a psychologist
18. a pest exterminator
19. a psychiatrist
20. a healer
20. a good listener
22. an organizer
23. a good father
24. very clean
25. sympathetic
26. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
44. give her compliments regularly
45. love shopping
46. be honest
47. be very rich
48. not stress her out
49. not look at other girls
AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
50. give her lots of attention, but expect little
yourself
51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. give her lots of space, never worrying about
where she goes
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
53. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Love Doctor answers My gals' Family don't like me and other trust issues
Real Life Problems with Girl's Family
To start off the month, actually end the month of April, Love Doctor Mac will discuss something here with you guys, it's about some guys problem with his love and family of his girl, read on. By the way keep those letters mailed to me and be assured I have read them all. It may take time for the Real Love Doctor to post it but it will be live in my Love doctor site. Enjoy your stay
Love Doc,
Hi 'n' hw r u? Ths z Bennie frm Malawi. Me I huv ths problem: I huv a garl lover, nw its 2yrs we r 2gether I luv her so much even her mum she has bin lovng me 2, but nw me & her mom its lyk Tom & Jerry bcz of a certain incident whch hapened btwn me and ma garl in whch I adresd 2 her mom. NOW her mom wz tellng her 2 leave me and 2 go out wth a certain dude who has everythng thn me. Ma garl wz said 'she cant b confortable wth sm1 who has everythng thn me in whch we wil b startng 2gether BUT me am I cant trust her sayngs coz @ 1 tym she received a 4n credit frm him and 2 me she said its her dad who sends, later on I found out that it wznt her dad' so ma question z what shud or wat steps shud I take? PLZ HELP ME. Gud tym.
Ben
Good day Bennie, I know it took me a long time to get back to you, because the months followed was busy days for the Love Doctor Mac. Anyways we'll get to your problem, no worries.
In most countries, family plays a big role in Love and Relationships, always take note of that, most Asian and Eastern culture adopt the so called, parents first policy when it comes to choosing their life partners or their relationships, there we can always hear and see fix marriages, inter wooven family close friends relationships, and those that the parents and another close business family taking into consideration in marrying their children off to business partners where they feel fit to further the improvements and to carry on the family business.
This traits make life in the western world for love and relationships a little less stressful, because in many western culture when you turn 18, you got kicked out in the house, your folks wants you to be independent and be able to take care of your self, they couldn't care less to which guy or gal you might end up to marrying. This is also evident in all western occupied countries. But I do know this tiny little fact, Europeans and Asians also live in Malawi. Most Europeans are British and Portuguese from Mozambique, and Asians are mostly Indians.
Now I don't know if Malawi was influenced by western culture or does it still hold values in your long traditional cultures. So I can't speak with the family issue thing. So for now I will guide you to the steps which you can do to fulfill a lasting relationship with your girl, or better if you two seperate ways or not?
I know lot of folks reading this would probably comment like it's gay, or it's over even when I started talking and such, but life is not about coolness and being prideful, life is about consideration and coping up to it's never ending changes, once you have achieved the patience and the perseverance to cope up with life, that is the only way you can say that you have become a well rounded person and have been fully experienced to take on life challenges head on!
Your Steps:
1. The problem here started when you adressed something with your girls' mom and things change, since I can't tell what was that problem, I advice you to take steps in fixing it.
2. Trust issue- your trust meter to your girl has gone stale and down into red alert when you caught her outright lying in your face, this time it's about money and credit card. One big part of the pie graph in a relationship is trust. I know it's hard for partners to trust each other nowadays, but this can be fix easily, talking and consoling to each other is a good start, you can try address with her the loopholes in her that you want to patched up, tell her that you have never lied to her, why is she lying to you? Do this at a good time, like a stroll in the park or in a beach where both of you are comfortable, by doing this you are not only saving the relationship into becoming a drowning ship, but you are reinforcing the love between you guys by doing good constant communication.
3. Lastly is, why not focus on being successful at your own pace and rate, since this family and almost most of the girls out there are looking for a successful guy and with lots of moolah to boot, you can do this using a million methods, business, online business, good job, hard work and stuff like that, it may not be today or the next month, but when the family sees you have a good future ahead they might change their mind with the guy they are forcing your girl to see with.
In all your problem is not that hard compare to many other problems out there, it just take a lot to be the man!, the man that your girl will love, or if not your girl today, maybe other girls out there that will be fit to you. It's all about being the alpha male! You can fake it and have instant success, but the best there is, is to be really the man for life. When I say you become the man, you have to be responsible, loveable and you have a good future set with you. This will erase a lot of minor problems arising in your part finding the right girl to love.
That's it Bennie, Love Doctor Mac Hopes you will have a great day ahead of you and may you be bless always, good luck in patching up your problem with your girl and her family. May the future holds bright for you
Til next time, keep those letters pouring in my dear readers!
Tuesday, March 25, 2008
How can you make a girl date you through phone call
How can you make a girl date you through phone call
Let the Love Doctor Help you out with a few short tips and reminders about dating through technology using the phone or even the internet voip services, in short how to ask a girl out using a call.
It's a long age question by boys and yes even men, who by chance wanted to take the other species out for a good date in either a restaurant, a snack, a movie or even any other activity that will waste time away with both of you enjoying each other's company, sounds easy? well for some this is a deathstrike, since they don't have the guts to just spit it out and ask the girl face to face, they opt to go to their mobile phone or landline and call, the worst case is they chatter mostly nonsense and in the end still didn't say the right words to ask the girl out. so here is just a few of my own personal tips to how I ask the girls out. The Love Doctor will lend you a hand.
First off, get to know the girl better first, make it a couple of days or even just a few simple hours and make her comfortable with you enough, that you can just talk to her casually and not in a stranger like manner anymore.
Don't strike and go, make the conversation short and funny but let it last at least 3-5 minutes and not speak in an untimely 20 seconds.
Greet and be polite, don't force yourself just because you're scared.
Give the girl options to where and what she wants, once you learned the spots and trades to what she expects on a good date, ask her out and claim you can offer her wishes.
Pick a good time of the day, usually after cofee or noon is the best time to ask for a date in a friday night or a lunch the following day.
Never bring anyone else into the conversation as she may think about bringing her friend along.
Be calm, be the man, control the situation and make the girl feel about it that you are the man when it comes to planning and finding options if she rejects you a couple of times.
Gave up after three false attempts on asking her out and she doesn't want to go. this ensures she doesn't feel comfortable enough with you yet. spend a little more time with her
Lastly and the ultimate secret in bagging her YES on dating you--- "Make Her trust you!" When she trust you, she will have no problem going out with you in public, pirvate or any places you can take her.
Your Call, Calling a Girl for a Date 101
Don't ask her on a "date" at all. Have some fun activity X planned for yourself, going to the beach or a dance club or hiking or a sport, whatever YOU like to do for fun. Casually invite her along much like you'd invite a regular(male) friend. Have a regular phone chat about the latest interesting events in your life / her life / current events just as you would with a guy friend, let the conversation wrap up "It's been good talking to you, I have to get going now for (mention the reason: work/dinner/plans/whatever)". But before you hang up, interrupt yourself to enthusiastically mention "Hey, I'm doing (activity X) later/tomorrow/Saturday (whatever day.) You should come along, it'll be fun". That takes all of the mentally stressful "date" pressure off of you and her. You're not asking her out, you're just a fun guy with fun plans and you're saying she can come have fun too. Do not even make it a question! State what your plans are and state that she can or should join you for a fun time. If she expresses interest wrap up any details quickly and GET OFF THE PHONE. More phone chat is just a chance to go downhill. Quicker and easier but less effective would be to skip the smalltalk, get on the phone and tell her you only have a moment to talk, tell her what fun thing you have planned for yourself, tell her she can or should come have fun too, and get off the phone quickly.
Here is more advice from people around the net
* Dial her number and talk to her a few times first. Then just ask her out, but make it a public place. Usually you would want to ask her if she would like to meet or to be picked up depending on how well you know each other.
* Don't go on a date like STRAIGHT AWAY. First find out if she wants to go out with you, if she says yes, get to know her favorite places and things. Then ask her on a date.
* Ask her out for a coffee, it's much easier than saying 'date'. It's not as forward as asking someone out for a meal, but still has a pseudo-romantic feel; and you keep a sort of non-committal attitude, meaning you can always say your intentions were completely innocent.
* To be honest, girls feel flattered when you ask them out personally (face-to-face). If you are too shy, don't say: "Do you want to go on a date with me," say something like "I'm going ______, would you like to come along?" If you want to make a great impression, ask her out in person!
*Even though I am a girl...I think that you should be calm about it! Don't freak about it! It isn't like the girl you want to date will kill you if you ask! The worst she can do is say no!
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Is Going to the Movies and Dinner too boring for a date?
Is Going to the Movies and Dinner too boring for a date?
What makes for an exciting, fun date? Is it really a boring date if you just go to dinner and a movie? Many men feel like it makes for a nice evening if they take their date out to dinner and then go to a movie. Most women feel that a date like that is boring. There must be a way to please both sexes.
When you are first getting to know someone, a date is a chance to see the other person in a particular situation and to see how they act and react to specific events. We want to know if the other person gets angry easily, what they like and dislike, and most of all, if this is someone we care to spend more time with. Let’s examine the dinner and a movie date and see if it is truly a good opportunity to get to know the person we are dating.
Assume that this is the second or third date you are going out on with this person. You are probably
speaking on the phone or sending emails to arrange for the date. Should the man decide which restaurant to go to? What about the choice of which movie to see? The way a couple handles these decisions can be indicative of what is to come later on in the relationship. Hopefully you have had a short discussion about where to eat. One of you may like a particular restaurant or want to try a place based on a recommendation from a friend. Watch out if one person absolutely will not eat at a pace you suggest. Unless they have dietary restrictions or have had a bad experience at that location they should be open to going to a restaurant of your choice. They are not buying the place; they are only going to have a meal there.
Now you both must decide how you will meet and get to the restaurant. The days of the man picking up the woman at her home may not be practical in today’s society. People live further away from each other or may be coming directly from work or some other place. See how your date handles this issue.
Once you are at the restaurant you will be aware of every detail. Has a reservation been made, if needed? Does the man pull out the chair for the woman to sit down? How you and your date handle the ordering of drinks, appetizers, and the main course says much about what kind of people they are and what their expectations of each other will be.
So far it looks like going out to dinner is an excellent opportunity to see the other person in a new situation. Now let’s get to the movie.
Men and women tend to have very different tastes in which movies they like to see. It may be almost impossible to find a film that both the man and the woman will thoroughly enjoy. You then must decide what kind of movie would at least be somewhat enjoyable for both of you to watch. Two and a half hours can be an eternity if you sitting in a theater with a film you just can’t stand. Also, when the lights go down and the movie starts your chance to interact with each other has almost disappeared. However, subtle events like choosing the seats, who sits on the end, where the woman can put her purse, and what to do when people talk or climb over you can all be good opportunities to see how both of the people react in such situations.
The bottom line is this: the dinner and a movie date might seem boring but it is a chance to spend several hours with someone before you commit to the rest of your life. If you really don’t enjoy that type of outing, be the one to suggest something more interesting for the next date.
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
How to Approach women in 3 simple guides and tips
How to Approach women in 3 simple guides and tips
Are you tired of being alone on Saturday night? I was like you once. I was lonely, unsuccessful with women, and just generally depressed with life. I decided one day to throw my entire mindset away and start anew with an improved mind-set. So I decided to go out and approach the first women I laid my eyes on. I've been doing this ever since and I have found out what works and what doesn't. Now that I am much more successful with women, I would like to share with you my top 3 tips for approaching women!
Tip #1 - Be different!
Women get approached every single day almost non stop whenever they're out. Probably GREATER then 9 times out of 10 a guy is going to approach them with a compliment. Usually, all they end up leaving with is rejection or a fake phone number. Instead of opening with a compliment, ask them an opinionated question like for example, if you're at a mall open with something like this "Hey, I'm here shopping for my sisters birthday present, can you help me?" Or also you could try a harmless joke like "Nice shoes, my baby sister has a pair just like them." Most guys won't ever touch this method for approaching women even if their life was on the line. Although it sounds strange, TRUST me, this is the single most effective way to be when approaching women.
Tip #2 - Be Groomed!
First impressions are everything. Nothing sets off a first impression more then messy hair, an acne ridden face, or untrimmed facial hair and nails. You don't have to dress in $100 dollar designer shirts, but make sure what you do wear is nice, fitted and matching. Make sure your clothing is always wrinkle-free, stainless, color coded matching, and always keep your shoes squeaky clean. Always shave your face and always fix your hair. Keep your nails trimmed and your teeth clean. Also never forget your deodorant and don't be afraid to apply a little bit of cologne.
Tip #3 - Be Confident!
Confidence is a beautiful thing. It can turn a selfless loser into a stud that attracts everyone around him. Confidence is the SINGLE most important thing when approaching women. If you appear confident, you will be more successful with approaching women, and life in general. A woman isn't going to give her number to a man who speaks quietly and hunches over. A woman wants a man in control and who displays this through conversation and body language. Don't be afraid of rejection, because chances are you will never see this woman again. If you just adapt the mindset that trumpets should play when you walk into the room, your life will INSTANTLY improve. Act confident, look confident, BE confident.
If you follow these tips as closely as I say, then I can guarantee you that you will INSTANTLY see an improvement on your success with women and with your life in general. I hope you enjoyed those three quick tips designed to help you increase your success with women simply and without much effort.
3 Tips For Approaching Women by Clark Cassidy
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Love doctor's tip Anniversary Gifts that are not boring
Love doctor's tip Anniversary Gifts that are not boring
Sending anniversary gifts not only shows somebody how much you care and appreciate them it also shows what sort of person you are. The gift its self will represent how much thought and effort you have made so now is the time to pull out all the stops and find anniversary gifts that will really be remembered.
Anniversary gifts need not be expensive and more often than not some of the more thoughtful anniversary gifts are those that are filled with sentimental worth rather than monetary value. You may have considered spending $60 on flowers, and $20 on chocolates but your money would be far better spent finding a gift with a difference.
If the gift is for your partner then romance is the key, consider poetry or maybe even having a song written for them, these types of anniversary gifts are probably things you have never considered before but they really are within your reach and budget.
Did you know there are poets online waiting to take details from you to create a unique poem? Sending something so personal and thoughtful will be remembered and cherished for a life time. Once of the great things about buying any sort of gifts, whether it is for a wedding, anniversary or birthday is that the internet holds the key to finding fantastic gifts ideas for every occasion with out the need to physically enter shops, thus avoiding the hustle and bustle of a busy town.
When looking for anniversary gifts it is always wise to set yourself a budget, it is very easy to get carried away and over spend. The last thing you want is to upset your beloved by getting yourself into debt.
The saying 'it is the thought that counts' really is true. It is easy to pick up jewelry, chocolates and wine however your partner will be far more appreciative if they know you have taken time out to find something extra special.
Try to be imaginative, consider what they enjoy or maybe something you enjoy doing together. Nowadays with life getting busier and busier maybe your time could be the perfect anniversary gift. Take time out to spend with one another or book a weekend away.
What ever you decide to give as an anniversary gift remember you are giving this to someone you love to show them you have enjoyed the time you have been married as well as show them how much you appreciate and want to be with them. An anniversary is a time for a couple to be together and express how they feel, a dozen roses may seem romantic but is there another anniversary gift out there that says more?.
Allen Jesson writes for a site that specializes in helping you find perfect anniversary gifts, wedding gifts and birthday gifts.
Love doctor's tip Anniversary Gifts that are not boring
Monday, February 18, 2008
Love Poem of the Day presented by the real love doctor.
Love Poem of the Day presented by the real love doctor.
Together Forever
We were together
And we thought it would last forever
But all dreams don't come true
Like the dream of me and you
We always said we were perfect together
And saying our love would last forever
But soon the time came
Of the heartbreak and the shame
I hope that you wont forget me
Because I won't forget you
I wish i could hear you say you love me
Love Poem of the Day presented by the real love doctor.
Poem Couple in Love
Durable intent…
For a couple in love
Resolute in perpetual affiliation…
Loving the lover for evermore
Vibes of veracity and indisputable warmth…
Penetrate a bond of truthful promise
Assertively budding in reverence and adulation…
Two have instituted the pleasure of loving
The exhilaration of the peaceful hearts…
Dance with mysterious delight
The songs of the cheerful host…
Instigated by an attuned distribution between the servers
Fit for festivity…
The charm of dancing spirits captures the moment
Wrought in the luminosity of agreement…
Fastened by duty and eternal vow
Examples of the heavenly guarantee…
Loving function… admirable love
Gratifying and agreeable…
Romantic and sweet love Quotes of the day
Romantic and sweet love Quotes
Romantic Quotes of Love for you and your partner Presented by the Real love Doctor, We all know that each one of us are romantic and sweet in nature, may this collection of meaningful and sweet love quotes and small poems be inspirational to you.
till my heart is full to overflowing.
If you don't realize how attractive you are in that way, let me tell you, other people do, and have told me so….
If you have any quotes to add - please email me. dasianbong@yahoo.com
Special Love Quotes for you and your partner this valentine season
Special Love Quotes for you and your partner this valentine season
Real Love Doctor Mac presents real love quotes for you and your partner, Love quotes has always been a favorite for all romantic hearts throughout ages to express their feelings, they have made serious contribution to the literary values of love letters connecting heart to heart. Here I have tried to make a collection of some of the all-time favorite cute love quotes that any lover would treasure.
1.)Love is friendship set on fire. --- Jeremy Taylor
2.)Love is like pi - natural, irrational, and very important. ---Lisa Hoffman.
3.) Love is a never ending feeling. ---Adeil Prince.
4.)The greatest thing you'll ever learn Is to love and be loved in return.
~ From "Unforgettable with Love" by Natalie Cole
5.) Love is born of faith, Lives on hope,; And dies of charity.
6.) Love is sometimes denied, sometimes lost, sometimes unrecognized, but in the end,
always found with no regrets, forever valued and kept treasured.
~ by Unknown ~
7.)I don't want to live-- I want to love first, And live incidentally.
---Zelda Fitzgerald(in a letter)
8.)Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent protects you from age.
---Jeanne Moreau .
9.)There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.
---George Sand .
10.)It is better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all.
---Alfred Lord Tennyson.
*11.) Love is but an essents in which we burn..
---Steve.
* 12) Love isn't what makes the world go round; it's what makes the ride worth while!
* 13) Love is a game and everyone plays that game!!
Want more? sure, there's a lot more waiting for u--just follow the links in this page to find out the entire collection of love quotes. .Hey, I'll be changing this quotes regularly so don't forget to visit this page often.
If you have some quotes on love that you'd like to share with us --you are most WELCOME--just mail them to me and I'll put them on my site-of course you'll be credited for that.
** My heartiest thanks to my friend Christina who have contributed the cute love quote no.11, to Glenda for the short love quote no.13 and for love quote no.12 to an unknown friend who sent it to me though Y messenger-- Thank You So Much for sending these cute love quotes
Saturday, February 16, 2008
How to effectively write a love letter to a Woman and a Man
How to effectively write a love letter to a Woman and a Man
Hello dear readers of our Love Clinic, The real Love Doctor is in once again, Happy new year to all, the festivities of the season of new Year is almost over and from those times about a week ago or later we have maybe wrote a couple of letters to family and friends??? If so you did, great if not then better start practicing my friend. Today Love Doctor Mac will tackle about how to write effective Love Letters for both sexes, yep that's right. So read on and learnIntroduction
This article tells you what she wants to know and how to say it to her.
Instructions
Things You'll Need
- 30 minutes to an hour of uninterrupted time.
- scrap paper
- nice stationary
- A good writing instrument
- a pressed flower, a photograph, or some small momento
Steps
Step One
Step Two
a color, a texture, a scent or smell, a time of day, a season, a food, a song.
Step Three
Step Four
Step Five
Step Six
Step Seven
Step Eight
Overall Tips & Warnings
- You can buy single sheets and single envelopes of good stationary at art supply stores.
- Be sincere and honest. Your love letter should truly be inspired by the thoughts you have of her. It will show in your words.
- To a woman, it's the effort that counts. If it appears like you went through trouble just for her, she will love what you give her, no matter how difficult your handwriting may be to read.
- Keep it about love and your appreciation of her. Don't inject sex into your love letter. (Save that for a different kind of letter, or yummy phone sex!)
How to effectively write a love letter to a Man
Introduction
Instructions
Things You'll Need
- 30 minutes to an hour of interrupted time.
- scrap paper
- Masculine or neutral stationary (paper or email background).
- A good writing instrument.
Steps
Step One
Step Two
Step Three
Step Four
Overall Tips & Warnings
- Men are visual animals. Keep your words few.
- Add a sketch or photograph to your letter. Or, if you're sending an email, find an image that conveys your feelings and include it at the end of your words.
- Be sincere and honest with yourself; it will show in your words.
- Lace and frills should probably be avoided. Consider his tastes when choosing stationary or an email background.
Chow!
The Real Love Doctor Talks about planning your Valentine Date
The Real Love Doctor Talks about planning your Valentine Date
The Real Love Doctor Welcomes you all back for another session in our love clinic. Last time around we talked about how to effectively write an effective love letter for both man and woman, and boy follow emails poured in like crazy, okay well just about two mails. Hehe. They were all asking for the same thing though, one big question when valentines is just around the corner in just a couple of more weeks to be exact, they were asking how to have a perfect valentines date. Well that is just what the real love doctor Mac is all about. I am here as your friendly neighborhood Love Doctor and I will give out the best advices for you to make your partner happy, and make your very own experience in this year's valentine a successful and memorable one.
Steps to take to prepare for a valentine date:
1. Plan ahead
Be it with months time preparation or now that it's just a couple of weeks ahead, Valentines needs a rough draft or a few imagination to go along. Ask yourself these few questions. Will I have a budget to spend when the date comes? What are her favorite restaurants? Can I afford to take her there? What are my alternatives? Gifts? How many hours will we spend outside? Movies? Something outrageous and out of this world? Will I be going according to her preference? My preference? Compensated preferences?
2. Gifts are Important
As a gentleman make it always a great hobby to offer your woman or woman to be gifts, women are suckers for gifts and usually feel special when you hand this stuff to them. Make the gift something she can use often, that way she can remember you every time she use your gift. Well think of something fast now.
3. Make Reservations
Always make it a habit to scout your place to hang out with, if good take the contact numbers of that place and call up weeks prior to the Valentine Event. This way you can avoid rush ups and competition with other couples dating during the same time of the holiday.
4. I go for a letter rather than flowers, but girls have a world different than our own
In other words, be unique. Uniqueness earns points to a girls heart, if chocolates are her craze give only a few, a simple flower and not a bouquet can be romantic, but bear in mind that a million men out there also will buy flowers, do you want to be with the majority too? Originality will bring out the best of you.
5. Lastly, treat her well and make her a princess even for the day only
Give in to her wishes and make this day special to her and for you to. If you got this mind set right from the start then I can guarantee you that you will have one of the most special day ever.
Have a blast the both of you, and I will be writing a few articles still before Valentines, So make plans now, write them up to make you remember them and start saving for that day, In my count valentines day prices are always bloated up to take advantage of couples celebrating the said event, so take this 5 steps for a successful and wonderful day.
Till next time, The Real Love doctor signing out of the love clinic. Feel free to mail me all your love problems and love inquiries on our new email ad blogger05@hotmail.com
Till next time Love Doctor is out
Why Women Don't Like Porn and other Men's Stuff that men like!
Why Women Don't Like Porn and other Men's Stuff that men like!
For today, Let us focus more on the funny side of life and not strain our backs on being a "womenizer" for just a short while, still as I have been saying since the past keep them letters pilling up please, the real love doctor will surely not hesitate to post some of your letters if it fits the Life, love and relationships topics. Good day.
I received a funny letter from a dear reader and I must say most of his thoughts about women is almost near perfectly true! Many thanks miss Genevieve for this funny yet humorous side of women in general.
why girls why?
Why Women Don't Like Porn
What you have to understand is that the average woman thinks that she is the only woman in the world who has a vagina. Not that they seriously think that, but it's a fantasy they all have. It's like being the only one to own a certain dress, or a certain pair of shoes. Seeing clear, irrefutable evidence that another woman has one that works perfectly well is a tremendous blow to the ego.
Why women don't like sports
Because it is competitive, and women being insecure about their own ability to compete physically (and rightly so), have a problem with even the idea of athletic competition. They condescend to pretending to like sports because guys like it, and a chick who likes sports is seems stronger amd more appealing.
Why Women don't like anal sex
Because everybody has an anus, which kind of removes them from being the sole porperty of the female sex. It doesn't make them feel feminine and sexy. Also they know that men will be grossed out afterwards and won't want to cuddle with them.
Why Women Don't Like Action Movies
The same reasons as sports, basically. Action movies involve competition that surrounds physical strength and skill, areas in which the femal sex is often lacking.
How to Properly french kiss someone
Hello dear Readers of the Real Love Doctor's clinic, today the Love Doctor will continue to give tips and know how's about Love and the art of body language in presenting one's love for another. Today as I checked on the last time in most of my emails, I have learned that a lot of those of you out there were asking on how to hug properly, when is the time for a great holding hands and even 2 letters on how to kiss correctly a girl. As I teared my self in laughing upon reading such things, I came up with a standard way of kissing passionately instructions just for you to follow. enjoy
Introduction To the ART OF FRENCH KISSING
Instructions
Things You'll Need
- Breath Mints
Steps
Step One
Step Two
Step Three
Step Four
Step Five
Step Six
Step Seven
Step Eight
Step Nine
Step Ten
Tips & Warnings
- Fresh breath is essential. Avoid smelly foods (garlic, brie cheese, corn chips, coffee) beforehand. Freshen up with a mint or gum, making sure to dispose of the gum before kissing.
- Some people find it helpful to practice French kissing on ice cream. It's a chilly but effective way to practice tongue flickers.
- Read your date's body language to ensure a French kiss would be welcomed. Holding hands and gentle brush-ups during the date are good signs.
- There is no single right way to French kiss. Kissing is as individual as the people doing it. The most important thing is to be true to yourself, your date and the moment.
- French kissing can quickly unleash passions. Know your limits beforehand and be prepared to put the other person on hold when you reach them.
- French kissing improves with practice. Don't be dismayed if your first time French kiss fails to ignite fireworks. Practice makes perfect.
- Don't shove your whole tongue in the other person's mouth, it's not a pleasant experience.
How to Properly Prepare for a Date [ yeah for noobs and virgins ] VERY EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUE
1.Do some homework. In the days before a date, take time out to catch up with current events and hot topics. These are great conversation starters and you will be able to impress your date with your knowledge. Try to remember as much as you can about previous conversations together so you can follow up on them. Have a couple of funny stories or conversation pieces up your sleeve in case you need them.
2.Start looking and feeling good in advance. Set time aside for exercise in the days before the date, whether it's yoga or push ups. Eat well and get plenty of sleep.
3.Pick your clothes early. You should have several outfits laid out before the day of the date. This way you won't have any last minute panics when you realize you have a spaghetti stain down your favourite shirt. Plus, it will allow you to try on a few different looks on the day of the date and see which one fits your mood most comfortably at the time.
4.Clean up on the day of the date. Take a nice, long shower or bath. Ensure you have clean hair and nails. You should smell good, but not overpowering. Avoid heavy perfumes and aftershaves, especially if your date could be allergic. Ladies, go easy when applying make-up and aim for a natural but groomed look. If things go well he will eventually see you without make-up - and you will want him to recognize you at that point. Shortly before leaving for your date, floss and brush your teeth thoroughly.
5.Think positively. You're going out to enjoy yourself, after all. Don't start worrying about what disasters could happen, because that way they are far more likely to. If you are getting nervous, call a good friend, watch your favourite comedy show or listen to upbeat music. Loosen up. Focus on having fun and you inevitably will.
6.Be punctual. Give yourself plenty of time to get to your rendezvous. Keeping your date waiting will start things off on the wrong foot.
TIPS
* Relax, be yourself, and be confident. More specifically, in addition to "being confident," you should "know your success" (success breeds confidence). Instead of "being yourself," try "being your best self".
* Sometimes even with the best preparation, your date might turn out awful. You may wish to have a "back out plan" in case this happens. Find a good friend you can call and then he/she can call you back in a few minutes so you can say you have some sort of crisis you need to attend to. You could also try being an honest person and say that you don't think it's working out, and that you need to leave early. Be prepared to contribute to the date and excuse yourself.
* Bring a condom. Whether you plan to use it or not, it is better to be prepared than to end up with responsibilities you didn't want. But, remember that you don't have to have sex.
Warnings and cautions
* Never put yourself in a compromising situation--most people are trustworthy, but "date rape" is unfortunately a real occurrence. Always have a first date in a public setting (restaurant, movie, club, mall, etc.) Only accept drinks served from a bottle or can opened by you or in front of you, or by a third party (like a bartender). Unfortunately, there are drugs ("date rape drugs") that can be added to ANY drink without any noticeable difference in taste. Some people use these drugs to put women (and sometimes men) in precarious situations. If you turn away from your drink, get into the habit of covering it with your hand, as it only takes a second to slip something into a drink. If you are suspicious, get a new drink.
* If you feel something's wrong, trust your instincts and politely but firmly end the date.
* Be sure to always have a cell phone and cash for a cab so that you never feel you have to rely on your date for a ride home.
* Always be careful about alcoholic intake.
* Don't Do Drugs